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Do you actually hear how you talk to others? Are you able to define the tone of your speech? I just wish if I could gauge the tone of my voice and could feel the way others perceive my words. In all these years I have learnt that the way a person talks greatly reflects the kind of person he is, what are his values, what are his beliefs and importantly it highlights his family and upbringing.

Answers to all these questions can be derived from these lines, said by Dr. Heng:

“Never, never, ever raise your voice- ninety percent of the friction of daily life is caused by the wrong tone of voice and the wrong words.”

Soft words fabricated into gentle tone-this is what we all need to adapt. Kind words when said in kind tone can do wonders. This manner has some miraculous power, it would soften the hard hearts, turn away the wrath, and it may brighten up some one’s day, or may bring an end to conflicts providing smooth ways to our relationships and can spread smiles and waves of love all around.

I have always believed that Relations are strong if based on harmony, if planted and germinated with love, if taken care with tender touch and they expand with sweetness when watered with soft words. Relationships dwindle when they get air of hostility; they wither when showered with anger and almost perish when this hard speech turns into conflicts.

We tend to be quick to criticize others when they make mistakes, but often forget to point out when they do something right. It only takes a minute each day to tell somebody who crosses your path what you appreciate about them, or just reflect a bright smile. Your words and gestures may brighten his gloomy day. Be courteous, be suave; it might bestow you with miracles. You never know who silently says a prayer in your favor and Allah fulfills it.

Simple but important tips to summarize:

• Watch out for the words before you utter them.
• Make a list of sweet, kind and gentle words in your mind
• Filter out the nasty and bad words. Trash them.
• Spread love with your words.
• Be the force of good and never criticize your friends in front of others, because harsh criticism never makes a person, it breaks. It shatters the real person inside making him resistant and defensive.
• Tell truth, and never lie.
• Talk in a manner which is neither slow nor harsh; neither a murmur nor aloud.
• Be careful not to clad your speech with flattery and avoid over talking.
• Add an ingredient of humor in your talks and praise people for what they are.
• Appreciate good things in life, speak gently and that should unbelievably change you and the immediate little world around you!